wheat allergies and crafts

So our oldest just came home from school, and said, “Daddy! Guess what! we did paper mache today!” She held out the front of her dress, which was covered in white stuff.

“Oh cool! Wait, does paper mache have wheat? Did you use flour?”

She nodded.

I ordered her to the laundry room to take off her clothes and go change, and to not touch or hug her sister or anything until she was done. You see, her younger sister is allergic to wheat. She doesn’t have celiac disease, she isn’t gluten intolerant, she is allergic to wheat. She doesn’t have to eat it to have a reaction, it’s enough to just touch it on her skin, and in the case of flour, it’s easy to breathe it in as well.

That has some implications for school and any craft activities that occur there. It means that her classroom cannot have Play-Doh in it, as that’s made with flour and contains wheat. Other forms of play clay are ok. And now I guess it means paper mache will have to be made without wheat flour.

Boy, her Grade 1 teacher is gonna looove me…

Bedtime Songs

8:47PM. My 5 yo is not asleep yet. Or rather, she’s woken herself enough to realize that I’m standing by the door to her room and that she hasn’t heard me sing her song yet.

I sang their songs out of order tonight. Usually I sing the sillier one first, to get it out of the way. It’s “Hush Little Baby”. I’ve come up with an inordinate number of rhymes. In my version, Papa buys them coats of wool, bright red Chevys, shiny pots, puffy clouds… you get the idea. After that I go for “the closer”, a slow lullaby that usually puts them right asleep, and if not, awfully close. Tonight for whatever reason I sang the slow one first, and now the silly one hasn’t settled them down.

“I didn’t hear you sing my song yet!” she wails. Close to tears, my youngest daughter tells me that I can’t go, she didn’t hear me singing, and I have to stay. I weigh my options. If I go now, she won’t fall asleep, upset as she is. If I stay, am I being weak, giving in, a soft touch? Will I be easy pickings when she’s seventeen and wants to take the car for the weekend?

I decide to stay. Kneeling by her bed, I sing my silly song, quietly, sotto voce. She’s asleep before I reach the end. It must be one of the sweetest moments as a parent, sitting beside your child as they sleep. The time will come soon enough, when they won’t want me to sing lullabies to them, or read bedtime stories, or have anything to do with them at all.

Soon enough. For now, I still get to be Daddy.

“Hush little baby, don’t you cry… Mommy loves you, and so do I.”

Book Review: Holes – by Louis Sachar

Holes Holes by Louis Sachar

My rating: 4 of 5 stars
We’ve been reading this with the kids for a bedtime story, and it’s very well written. It’s not a ‘kids’ book, it’s just a great story that happens to involve kids. Highly recommended, great for the 8-12 set and their parents, if you’re tired of fairy books and the like. Poignant, touching, inspiring and funny, Holes takes us through the story of one Stanley Yelnats, a boy who was at the wrong place at the wrong time, and because of unfortunate circumstances finds himself at a correctional camp for boys. His story, and his family’s history, become intertwined in the present as Sachar deftly weaves the threads of Stanley’s life into a delightful tale of friendship, intrigue, and surprising twists.We all enjoyed it. After we had finished, I took it and re-read it to fill in the chapters I had missed!

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A new idea for slicing crusty bread

Tonight I had a baking tray around and I decided to put my cutting board on it and sliced the bread inside it, neatly containing the crumbs inside it, and not all over the counter. Yay!

The Halloween Allergy Sorting Ritual

It happens every year. The bags of candy are dumped on the table, and the Great Halloween Sorting Ritual begins.

“Is this safe?” “What can I eat?” “Can I have this?”
“Wait, let me check. What is it called?”
Frantic Googling of ingredients and allergy information ensues.
“Oh, wait, it’s processed in a facility that also processes wheat.”
Take that one out of the pile.
“Are Tootsie Rolls ok?”
“Um… let’s see. Nope, Tootsie Rolls have milk. So do Tootsie Pops.”
Out of the pile.
“What about this lollipop?”
“What is this? I’ve never heard of this. A Dum Dum? Let’s see… Oh, those are ok. Oh wait, does this one have gum inside? “This allergen info DOES NOT APPLY to Dum Dum’s with gum inside”… nope, that one is out.”
Out of the pile.

By the end we have whittled down the pile to chips, a few lollipops, Swedish Berries and Fruit gummies, and that’s about it for the little one. Her big sister gets the bulk of the chocolate and other candies.

Both are allergic to nuts so Mom and I get those. :)

adventures in eating out

Question: Where do you take a kid that is allergic to wheat, dairy and eggs for dinner?

Well, the answer is: not that many places… but thankfully that list of places is expanding.

Normal places that are safe*:
- Swiss Chalet (a Canadian rotisserie chicken restaurant): where she can eat the chicken, the sauce, and the fries (although they are a risk because they don’t use dedicated oil for the fries)
- McDonald’s: where she can eat the fries and the hamburger patty without the bun
- Japanese for sushi and maki/rolls (but nothing that has tempura or is fried with soy sauce, and she’s not a big fan of the wasabi either)
- we can also go to Chinese restaurants and order steamed rice and ‘plain stir fry’ veggies with garlic (aka ‘ching chow’ in chinglish… LOL)

As you might gather, it’s not the greatest variety. I should also mention that my daughter is just shy of 5 years old, and she doesn’t like lettuce that much (nor raw tomatoes or peppers), so ordering the Garden salad is not an option.

I will be starting a new series on places that we have eaten out where we were able to order something that was wheat/dairy/egg free**. Items off the menu, even! Tonight we’re trying a new place, Grace Restaurant on College. Check my twitter for pics of dinner at: http://twitter.com/div_conspiracy

* Allergy information and complete ingredient lists for many restaurants can be found online at the restaurant’s own site, usually. McDonald’s is pretty good about it, as is Swiss Chalet.
**I should start a new acronym, like GF (for gluten free). WF/DF/EF? WDE-free?

setbacks in “growing out of” food allergies

Today we went out for lunch after church. To Vietnamese, where you can get rice noodles, and grilled meat, and if you ask they’ll leave off the peanuts on the order.

On paper, the dishes seemed safe.

According to the waitress, the dishes should be safe.

Unfortunately, just an hour and a half after eating, she started to complain that her nose was itchy. Then her underarms. Then her elbows. Then she started crying that she was itchy all over.

Time to get the Benadryl.

Then it was into the bathtub for a cool water bath.

Then it was no end of trying to distract her from scratching herself raw by letting her play with my Blackberry. Eventually she fell asleep with me holding her. At least then she wasn’t scratching anymore! Kind of heavy, though. And as we were sitting at the kitchen table, on a somewhat uncomfortable chair… sigh.

On a side note, if you want the kids to be knocked out, Benadryl will definitely do it… not that I am advocating that you should use it for any reason other than its intended purpose… :)

When your food allergic child is having a reaction, it’s a bad feeling as a parent. Bad because you know that it was your job to make sure that she doesn’t eat anything that she’s allergic to, and bad because YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER, and bad because your child is crawling out of their skin with itchiness, and bad because you just may have caused her to be allergic to whatever it is for the rest of her life because of your carelessness. “Aaugh!!” as Charlie Brown used to say.

The prevailing thought is that how a child ‘grows out’ of an allergy is through complete non-exposure, and given that a child’s immune system is not fully mature until around age 5, if the child has not been exposed and has not had a reaction, when the body’s immune system does ‘set’ itself, it will do so with a reduced reaction or possibly no reaction to that particular allergen.

You can see how our anxiety is pretty high about these accidental exposures, and how disappointing it is when she does get exposed. I kind of view each one as a sort of setback, and it’s painful because you don’t know if this will be just a setback, or the straw that broke the camel’s back.

As I write this our daughter is sleeping peacefully, the bedtime dose of Benadryl having its effect. Hopefully the symptoms will stay away. I guess I can’t dwell on it too much. We just have to try our best.

would you like a baby?

So I was with the kids at my parents house in the burbs today, and we went down to the park to spend some time on the play structure and just hang out.

As we were about to leave, I turned and saw a baby crawling down the hill.

By herself.

With no adult following behind.

Anywhere.

This is every parent’s nightmare. Warning bells are going off in my head. I looked around to see if anyone was coming, but there wasn’t. I turned to the other parents at the playground and asked if the baby belonged to any of them, but they all looked as confused as I was. As she reached the bottom of the hill, she stopped, and sat down. And then she started to cry. So I bent down and tried to soothe her with some comforting words, at which point she decided I was ok and lifted her arms up in the universal baby body language which means, “Pick me up!!”

She seemed to settle down, and I again looked around the playground to see if anyone was missing a baby. Nope. I headed up the hill in the direction from which she had crawled, and I noticed a flurry of activity in the backyard of one of the houses that backs onto the park. Hmm, I thought… does it look like they’re looking for a baby? I felt like the kid in “Murmel Murmel Murmel” who finds a baby and goes looking for someone to take care of it.

I walk towards the house. I think to myself that the house is a good 100 feet away, at least. As I get closer to the house, I see a large-ish man come hurrying out of the backyard gate and come towards me. I don’t remember exactly what I said, something to the effect of, “Is this your baby?”. He looked relieved.

Then he called out to a teenage kid, well, more like yelled at him, to come over and get the baby. As the man got closer to me, he said that the boy had left the gate open. The boy didn’t seem to see me, and was walking around aimlessly. The man yelled at him again, and as he reached me I passed the baby off to him. As he took her, he thanked me (I think, now that I’m writing this I can’t remember) and just kept berating and yelling at this kid as they walked back towards the house.

I wish I could say it was a story with a happy ending, but it really is kind of just unsettling. I mean, it’s happy in that the baby is back where she’s supposed to be, and not lost or abducted. I’m glad that I found her and not some ‘bad person’. I’m glad she crawled down to the playground and not out to the street.

But that baby must have been motoring, to have gotten that far out the gate without anyone noticing. When I first saw her she seemed pretty cheerful, crawling down the hill. But when she saw all the unfamiliar faces, I think she realized that she may have gone a little too far from home, and that’s when she started to cry.

I don’t know if the man was the father, grandfather, caregiver, foster parent, or what. And I handed a baby off to him, not really knowing.

I hope that this teaches that family to be a bit more careful in future. I hope that the kid learns from this and matures as a result, and that it isn’t just one more thing in a long list of things to get yelled at for. I hope that the yelling at the kid from the man was just a result of the panic of the whole situation, and not an everyday occurrence. I hope the baby is taken care of.

I hope that I don’t yell at my kids like that.

Jon & Kate plus 8

You know, my kids really like this show. Of course, the big announcement was tonight, and no surprise, they’re separating. Great. I hope that the show goes off the air and the kids can just watch re-runs of the good ol’ days, because it isn’t gonna be much fun to watch after this, unless you like watching train wrecks. Oh wait, we do? This is reality TV at its finest? Oh, OK then. Carry on, carry on.

Yay, now I get to answer all sorts of divorce questions! Fun!

road trip survival tips

Having recently returned from a family trip to Grosse Pointe, I thought I’d distill for you (and myself) what worked and what didn’t work while driving for extended periods of time with a 4.5 yo and a 6.5 yo. It’s only a 4 hour drive from Toronto to Grosse Pointe, so this isn’t a super long drive, but with the kids, it’s long enough!

What we learned from last time:
– the kids are likely to get motion sick, so bring along kids gravol/dramamine
- stop for a bathroom break a little ways before the border crossing, (or even at the border crossing) in case the line up is long
- don’t bring books or small things for them to do, because they get motion sick

New things we tried this time:
– audiobooks on CD from the library of their favourite children’s books
- a throw up container handy just in case
- closed back type headphones for each kid, a splitter, and an iPod with kids podcasts and music
- had the kids make their own creative maps of our trip beforehand, so they could look at it during the trip and see where we were

Did it work?
– the headphones were a success, we used them only once, but while listening to stories they fell asleep! Yes! And as an added bonus, we didn’t have to listen to kids stories, we could listen to grown-ups music. Headphones FTW!
- the maps were extremely helpful, instead of the kids asking, “Are we there yet?” they could ask, “Where are we?” and we could give them a concrete answer, then they could know whether we were halfway there, or almost there, or just out of the driveway… :)
- our oldest commented that she enjoyed the drawing toy (magna doodle), mainly because she used it to write out words that we were ‘testing’ her spelling with

All in all, it was a good trip, and these tips helped pass the time on the drive.